"It caused so much more anger with him and so many unnecessary hurtful interactions,communications with him,"said the woman,who asked to remain anonymous for her safety.
"I had the opportunity to get back into the house while he was at work and I literally had to go and rifle quickly through our filing cabinet just to write down anything I could,any kind of numbers I could see.
"It would be amazing if someone said,oh no,Mr So-and-so,it's the law,you have to provide this information."
Ms Clarke has been advocating since 2016 for the ATO information sharing scheme. After the 2018 announcement,those in the field believed it would be running by July 1,2020,but that has passed with no sign of it.
Finance Minister Mathias Cormann said in a question on notice this week the co-design process had started between the ATO,Family Court and the Attorney-General's Department and draft legislation to underpin it would be released"as soon as practicable".
A briefing paper the Women's Legal Service Victoria sent to Minister for Women Marise Payne last month warnsother Family Court reforms now under way also rely on timely,full and frank financial disclosures.
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"Further,it must be noted,that time is of the essence as perpetrators are able to decrease the property pool by accessing their super early under the COVID-19 early release of superannuation scheme,"it states.
Ms Clarke said that without the ATO information sharing scheme,these other reforms were being severely compromised.
Opposition spokeswoman for preventing family violence Jenny McAllister says the project is clearly not on track.
"The government acted quickly to make it easy for people to access their super during the coronavirus pandemic,but has sat on its hands when it comes to helping women in abusive relationships access their share of super assets,"she said.
Senator Payne has been asked for comment.
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