I understand that some men are struggling with the new rules of engagement. Can they evenlook at a woman these days without seeming like a creep?
“I had to give up trying to read statement T-shirts,” Bantick wrote,“after it became clear that trying to read the message ran the risk of offending the wearer.”
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He makes a good point. It’s tricky to look at a woman’s cleavage for too long without seeming lascivious and creepy. The good news is that men aren’trequired to look at a woman’s cleavage;they can look up at her face instead. And,fortunately,most statement tees are only a few words,with slogans likeVote Yes,orJust Do It orMy Eyes Are Up Here!Men can glance at them,easily take in the information,think “cool tee”,and then look away.
It is still possible for men to give compliments to women. The world hasn’t gone completely mad. #MeToo hasn’t made the dating scene a minefield not worth navigating. Men can still find women attractive and vice versa,and we can even act upon it! What has changed,however,is the level of shit we women are willing to take. It’s not that things are getting worse for men,it’s that some very slow-won battles are being won for women. And men should love that and embrace it,should they wish to embrace us.
Women still like to be appreciated,we just put feeling safe above all else. What we would really like is for more men to be allies. We want them to fight for equal pay and representation,strive to end domestic violence,share the household chores and the burden of parenting.
We would compliment them on that.
Kerri Sackville is an author,columnist and mother of three. Her new book is The Secret Life of You:How a bit of alone time can change your life,relationships and maybe the world.
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